It is not so important for the child whether he has good knowledge of mathematics, whether he has order at home, for him it is much more important - how he lives and feels in this house. And in order to understand this, you must at least ask the child. Therefore, it is necessary to strive for full communication with the child.
I was very surprised by the commentary on my article: “I visited the parents’ meeting ”. But after all, at the parents' meeting, and in television programs, and in various magazines about parenting is said primarily to ensure that parents understand the importance of the problem.
You can read nothing, not listen, not talk about it, if you know everything perfectly well. But, for example, I write such articles because I spend all day with children, I see that they really need to feel secure, happy, calm. And I want to suggest this to you, parents, who sometimes just have no time to notice it because of the rapid pace of modern life or because the cry of the soul of their child: “People, talk to me! Well, anyone !! ”- just do not hear.
Of course, I understand parents very well, because the very same ordinary person myself - I work, I get nervous, I get tired, I worry about difficulties, lack of money, and bosses. And with the advent of social networks, and in general there is no time. But it must be understood that as soon as we made the decision to have a child, we took responsibility for both his physical development and the formation of him as a person. We must prepare our child for a successful life in society, for the ability to educate the next generation with a decent value system, because the future depends on it.
Conversation is the most important and most important tool for communicating with a child. But you need to talk not constantly teaching, but with an open heart and soul.
You can talk about everything, even the most insignificant episodes that happened to him during the day. Such a conversation is very important for the child. Constantly talking, we create a trusting relationship with him.
Sometimes parents want to seriously talk with their child, but they fail. And all because previously there were no communication bridges with the child, they were not interested in talking with the child about what is significant and relevant for him. Often parents avoid such conversations, cut them off, because it is not vital for them.
Therefore, it is necessary above all to strive for trusting relationships. If you want to talk about the dangers of infections, about schooling, about maintaining order, speak, but in order for such conversations not to be boring and boring, add also children's topics that excite the child. For example, about a fashionable computer game, about classmates. Listen kindly to the child to feel that you are interested.
During communication, try to tell the child something interesting for him, preferably informative, clever. During conversations, children, as a rule, ask a lot of questions, give them not childish answers, but adults, mature ones.
In every conversation with a child, adults show their attitude towards him. At this time, the child feels how much he is loved and significant to his parents, how they relate to him. And over time, out of these hidden parental messages and relationships, the child develops self-esteem, as well as character, self-esteem, and human dignity. And the success of his present and future life depends on it. It is very important to remember that if parents constantly communicated with their child as a child, then as an adult, he will continue this communication.
Look for different ways to communicate, for example, through creativity. If the child is not fond of anything, then the task of the adult is to engage him in some creative activity. After all, joint exercise improves the mood of the child, helps relieve stress, fatigue, and has a beneficial effect on the nervous system. Through creativity, you can teach your child many useful and necessary things, and unobtrusively, interestingly.
In communication can not do without disputes. For some reason, parents are convinced that in a dispute or in a serious conversation, adults must come out victorious. But why should they, nobody really knows, and such an attitude towards children is harmful for the formation of a growing personality, his self-esteem and his human dignity. You should not force the child to agree with you in every conversation, because children do not always understand adults and do not always agree with them. It's ok to argue. And the more often adults refuse to win in disputes with their children, the calmer their children are, the more respectful they treat their parents and themselves.
One of the most important tasks of adults is to support, encourage and praise a child, forming a high personal self-esteem of a growing person. Organize your life so that it has time for your own child every day.