To have happy children and a good family, you need to establish friendly communication. Family members should not only talk with each other, but communicate deeply and correctly. It is the quality of communication in the family that determines the relationship between adults and children, the ability to make the family happy. Of course, parents are ordinary people who make a lot of mistakes, pay for it with painful bumps, sometimes they lose control of themselves when emotions overwhelm them. But at the same time, parents who have children must necessarily think, reflect, analyze. They need to work on themselves, to cultivate. And most importantly, they should treat the child as a gift of fate.
The main task of parents is to build a happy family, in which children grow up happily and live happy adults. And all of them are good with each other. At the same time, the atmosphere of family communication is very important. It is not so easy to build warm, friendly relations in the family, but it is also not difficult if you learn from it and learn from past mistakes. So let's learn.
In our speedy century, we communicate with our children very quickly, invest a lot of information in this communication, and children sometimes do not have time to perceive all the information, the tone of our speech. Therefore, you should communicate slowly, cordially, thoughtfully. Often, talking with a child, we speak as if the child is guilty of something. Or use the mandative, and sometimes moral tone. Why don't we want to communicate with our children in a friendly, equal way? After all, if we are for a child to be a friend, listen carefully when he speaks, do not interrupt, then our child will know that he will always be able to tell us about his feelings and emotions, and will not be afraid that he will not be understood, shamed, interrupted.
Very often, the main concern in the family is the need to feed and water the child, this is given a lot of time, and in fact, we must strive to spend next to the child as much as possible, thoughtfully, slowly communicate with him. And there must be a dialogue between you, not a monologue. This is the surest way to learn about the state of your child's soul.
When communicating with a child, try to ask, not order. A child will gladly respond to a friendly request, and more quickly and more willingly than to an order. Try not to remind him of any of his past mistakes or oversights. Children are no less busy with their business and can sometimes forget to do something, so don’t rush to blame them for it, but remind them calmly.
All children want to be good, but sometimes they do something bad. Most often, the child did not want or did not expect that to happen. Therefore, if you feel that the child did not on purpose, it is better not to notice such an oversight than to swear. And even better - to think and figure out what the reason for this act. Usually, children themselves are aware that they have acted poorly, and are worried.
Try not to summarize: "Eternally you ...", "You are in general ...". Your child is always good in general, and if he made a mistake once, there’s no need to say that this is always the case. If the child’s fault is obvious, try to help him find a solution to the problem or a way out of the situation in which he has fallen. Always try to notice the success of the child, his achievements, even the smallest ones. Be sure to praise the child. Of course, oversights and shortcomings should also be noticed in order to teach the child to correct them, but the main thing is to notice the good. And be sure to talk with your child about his progress. Let him learn not only from his mistakes, but also from his successes. Remind him of these successes, achievements more often, because any success can be repeated if you own the methodology for achieving it.
In your family, try to achieve unity of all adults and be sure to follow the requirements yourself. If parents learn to communicate with the child, and not only demand or reproach, then the family will create an environment of love and establish strong ties between children and parents.